Saying Good Bye

       We all have those years we want to put behind us, and this year is one of those for me.

It began with a series of deaths starting with my sister-in-law; my husband’s brother (who was married to the sister-in-law mentioned above); to the death of a colleague reporter I worked with years ago and ended with the cancer death of a woman who did a lot for Special Olympics.

She left behind a husband and two adult daughters – one has Down Syndrome. I remember this mother opening up her home to serve supper for the special education students before they went to the high school prom. My youngest autistic son so enjoyed this. I recall that night and Andrew’s excitement, exclaiming how beautiful the girls looked in their Cinderella gowns.

However, the good-byes do not end there. Another shoe dropped. My writing partner and wonderful and dear friend is moving far away. We have done so much together, not only writing but also other things together. I will miss her so much, such as going to Spaghetti Works and her ordering peppers and mushrooms to add to her spaghetti sauce.

Life brings changes and writing does the same, such as learning how to write a fiction novel by attending a writers critique group. I also learned a lot from writing conferences, editing and promotional techniques as well as what a writer’s life really involves.

After attending my first conference, I was shocked to find out when an author receives an “advance” from a publishing house if that book does not sell out that “advanced” money, the author must return the sum for those not sold. Is that not sad?

I thought once your book was out there you were on easy street. You are not. In my mind, I pictured authors sitting at their desks typing out their stories and sipping their cups of coffees. I also never thought they had to promote their own work. I believed someone else did that and in some cases that still can happen. However, in today’s world, most authors can say bye, bye to that one.

Several years ago my first book, Seasons of the Soul, was released. I had a book signing at the local library. I envisioned lines around the library waiting for them to buy my book. I had a good book signing, but it sure did not measure up to what I had predicted.

I also had several book signings at Barnes and Noble, and the customer service representative was anxious to have me return time after time. She let me stay as long as I wanted. However, those days are gone because when my historical romance, Lockets and Lanterns, was released in 2010 she actually asked me to leave after a few hours. Why the difference? The e-book revolution took its toll on Barnes and Noble’s profits. Thus again, life serves up a lot of good-byes.

I will miss my dear friend. She, though, needs to go where God leads her family, and we still will converse by phone, e-mail, write anthologies together and attend conferences. However, it will never be the same. So enjoy your time with others for nothing lasts forever and let go and let God do the rest. He will sustain you (if you believe in Him) through these good-byes.

Remember I may say good-bye to this post, but another, God willing, will appear next month. And, as always, I will end with a God bless.


About janetsyasnitsick

Visit blog for writing, marketing tidbits to dazzle your creative endeavors. New book: Courtships and Carriages, a sweet Christian romance, (two proposals but who wins Gwen's heart?). Other works: Ruth Ann Nordin's and Janet Syas Nitsick's anthology, Bride by Arrangement; Janet's five-star, inspiring-historical romance, Lockets and Lanterns; 10th place story, "The Silver Lining;" and Best of Year book, Seasons of the Soul. Background: former journalist and language-arts teacher.
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6 Responses to Saying Good Bye

  1. dorothypaula says:

    Dear Janet, this year so far has not been a good one for us, either. I lost a sister-in-law to cancer, and two very old friends. My daughter-in-law’s kitty (16 years) passed away a couple of weeks ago. And I have two elderly cats, also 16 years old, one of whom is ailing and mostly blind. So what we have to do is to pray each day, put all our problems in the hands of the Good Lord, and count what blessings we retain.

    I understand what it feels to have dear friends move away. In my case, my husband and I did the moving from Long Island to Massachusetts to be with my son and family (wife and grandchildren). Now if I could only get my other son to move up here, I would have my immediate family close to me again. It’s never easy. But, thank God for giving us Graham Bell and the telephone. Often I think how difficult separations were when there were no phones. Imagine a mother whose children moved away or went to war. Imagine the hurt of months and years of not knowing what was happening to them, except, for a letter now and then that was already a month old by the time she received it. As troubled as our world is, we are still more fortunate than our ancestors.

    P.S. Getting off these sad comments, and back to writing, our far-healthier non-medical anti-depressant, I wonder if you might consider doing a box-set with me on Smashwords? As you already know, I write clean, wholesome, sweet contemporary romance novellas. (I’m also branching out to include Large Print Text Paperback Novellas of my standard paperbacks). I’ve been reading that there is a market for large print text paperbacks for tired or vision-impaired eyes.) Just a suggestion for you to mull over while, hopefully, and God willing, this year gets better. Hope your hubby is doing well. All the best and God’s blessings. A fan and fellow writer.

  2. Thanks for your comment, Dorothy. I will have to mull over your suggestion. I am not against it, but I would need to know more about it. Right now, though, my husband is having a difficult time. I am doing many duties he usually does, such as doing the whole care of our oldest autistic son. I am doing fine, however, it leaves little time for creative juices. Tell me more about what you have in mind for this project.

  3. Man of many thoughts I want to thank you for the follow. God bless.

  4. I want to thank you for the follow, Antryump. God bless.

  5. Thanks for the follow, Romance4thebeach.

  6. Happy to have you follow this blog, Jessica Edouard. The Lord’s blessings to you.

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